Asked: First date with new boyfriend? advice?
I've known my boyfriend for about 5 months now and we've been quite close.. And the other day he asked me to be his girlfriend (via text, I know it's not the best but these were special circumstances..) but I can't see him over half term because he's in France. We text everyday, he texts me in the morning and then we always text for ages at night. But on Sunday I'm meeting him for the first time as my boyfriend (and also the first time out of school) but I don't know how to greet him- do I greet him as a friend or do I hug him or what? I'm so confused.. He's my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. Also how do we act when we go back to school? He's quite shy, and denied liking me for ages because his mates teased him. Any ideas? How can I make it not awkward etc!?
We're both 14/15 by the way..
Asked: I’m a conservative Christian guy waiting ’til marriage. Chances of being alone for life?
Firstly, let me apologize for the length of this; I tend to go into a lot of detail, perhaps too much, but I like to get my perspective across as clearly as possible.
I'm 21, in college (Went to University for a time; it was horrible for many reasons), and have been single my whole life, partly by choice, but definitely partly not. I have Asperger's Syndrome, but a fortunately mild case; doesn't make things any easier, certainly not relating to love. So, I decided to do something about that situation, and got a dating advice book (It was a book for pickup artists, frankly, which isn't my thing, but the info was very good), which totally changed my outlook on dating and love. Thing is, the info that it provided concluded quite convincingly (Good scientific logic processes employed) that girls are looking for sexual guys, and very well may get bored if those needs are not being met by a guy, as they are likely used to not going without (Pardon my aversion to the word, but I imagine you know what I'm referencing).
The people I've met haven't really been improving my outlook. Ideally, I'd been hoping for a girl that shared my values, but, well, that idea's all but gone. At the University, met an awful lot of people bitterly opposed to Christianity, and certainly no shortage that were into experimentation relating to sexuality. Felt almost oppressed under the weight of all of their views, like I would be judged brutally in a heartbeat if I let slip my views. College is better; the people are more level headed, less arrogant, and more open minded… But they're certainly not waiting 'til marriage. There was a school survey done, and 98% had said they'd had at least one partner, with very few people being married, and a small percentage of people having upwards of 50 partners. I'm not into drinking, smoking, or drugs either; boring, perhaps, but I figure if this is the way I'm living my life, I should be consistent as much as I'm able. Those are all things that, ideally, I want in a partner, but I realize that's an unrealistically high expectation.
So, in summary, I've got firm values and cannot, for the life of me, find anyone that lives up to them, never mind a decently attractive girl that I'm compatible with (Which would be a rare enough thing for anyone with Asperger's). I'm settling into the notion that I'll most likely spend the rest of my life alone, but a second opinion would be welcome, hence the question:
Given all that, how likely am I to end up alone for life?
Asked: What do you think of this? (relationship advice)?
I'm 19, and this girl is 17 years old. We like each other, want to date and go out on a date
I'm meeting her parent's (maybe just her mother, it depends), and her brother later today. Her parent's and brother are kinda protective of her so I was thinking if I'm gonna be turning 20 in July, it would probably be a problem because of the age difference between us (This girl is turn 18 in December). I mean, I'm not planning on having sex with her, or have any sexual relations with her. I just want to make her happy, love her, respect her, and besides, I love her personality, she's really nice and she is flat out beautiful (I don't know what I would do without her). We been talking to each other for a while now. I'm really thinking about asking her parent's if I could date her, and take out her out for Valentine's day.
What do you think of all this? Do you think 19 and 17 year old should be dating let alone 20 dating a 17 year old? Do you think I need to tell them about me not wanting to have sexual relations with her and they have nothing to worry about? Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Asked: Finding it so hard to get over this guy? Please any advice at all?
I met this guy 2 months ago, he asked me out and we hung out for the first month, 3 times a week plus talked loads by skype in between.We hugged tons and even shared his bed a few times..just hugging, no kisses as we were taking things slowly.He was always saying stuff like 'You're my next girlfriend!You're a beautiful woman' (even in front of friends). I asked was he joking about the girlfriend thing (the last night we were together…that was 3 weeks ago) and he said 'We're getting to know each other. Let things take their course, what do you want?.I said 'maybe? I'm just worried about the age difference (as I'm' a bit older)' and he replied 'I've no problem with that, if 2 people love each other..it's fine'. When saying bye he said 'Call me and we'll go for a swim'.
Here's the strange thing, I send a couple of texts since and he either didn't respond or he cancelled a meeting we fixed. Then last week he contacted me by skype and I asked if he was avoiding me and he said 'Nooooo! I'm just really busy' (he works in filming).So I said 'ok, in a break you get, we'll talk, ya owe me a visit!' He said 'Yesssssss! bye beautifulxx'.
And I haven't heard from him since.I'm so disappointed and can't get him out of my mind.I've fallen for him but feel he's not into me or he would have been back to me or am I too hasty to judge?What should I do?I accepted a date from another guy last night and even though he was lovely and asked to see me again as I'm so into the other one.Any advice please?