Connor Asked: question before I go to OCS?
I am currently a Marine Officer Candidate. Before I go to OCS I have a question for this community: Are there some people who are just not meant to become an officer?
Before you go off and say, go to OCS and let the Marines there decide if you are capable or not, let me explain. Also, I am not looking for an answer from my OSO as I am a bit leery. He is a great guy and a great Marine, but he is also in the salesmen billet of the corps, so I feel like his answer would be a influenced by that billet. I am not scheduled to go to OCS until the summer of 2013. I have already graduated from PLC juniors and now I have to go back for Srs. Please keep reading
As a Marine, as how I understand it, I know that you have to be constantly adapting to new situations. You have to be able to think on your feet. You have to solve things on your own. Am I right? At Jrs, I found it very difficult to adapt to most of the things that were thrown my way. Whether it was time management after lights, whether it was learning my role as a billet holder, drill, academics, the list can go on and on.
Also, I am not a very good leader at all. I am extremely introverted and soft spoken. Think of the people who sit in the back of the classroom and hardly say a word. I get nervous when I am put into leadership positions. When I do get into leadership positions, I often get overly nervous and tend not to assert myself. I am sure it would be hard for Marines to follow somebody who appears all timid and shy.
In a wrap, My biggest concerns are that if I get the chance to join the Marines as an officer and I take the chance, that I would have to be babied so I could learn my new positions. Also I feel like I do not have the leadership potential to lead Marines.
P.S. (bonus question, you do not have to answer if you do not want to.)
I have thought about enlisting into the military. Here are my thoughts:
If it is possible to love a sport, then I believe that I am in love. By joining the Marines, or any branch for that matter, I would be saying goodbye to my chance to play professionally, which I believe that I have a decent chance. However, I also look at history and I see that without the military, there would be no USA. If it was not for the people who are fighting today, people might not have the ability to go and chase their dreams and live a "good life" while others are dying and going through sleepless a hell to protect the freedom that allows civilians to live the "good life." I just feel like it is not right that I could go and enjoy the freedoms and the luxuries of this country while others are sacrificing all of their freedom possibly for the rest of their lives. However, when I look the other way, I realize that the sport that I do is what I love to do. I have a strong passion for it. It is the reason why I chose to go to the college that I went to. It plays a role to some degree in the major that I chose. I have a strong passion for the sport. I dream about it, I think about it a lot. The sport is the reason why I chose to "breakaway" from somebody I was dating befroe we got into a relationship. I train everyday to get better. Like I said, if it is possible to love a sport then I love that sport. What are your thoughts about this if you have any? How do I find out which way is the way that I was meant to go? I dont know, it just digs into my heart that I might be taking teh option to live the good life at the expense of so many sacrifices by hundreds of thousands of men and women all over the world. However, I have a deep down passion for this sport, and I would probably make a sacrifice of both of my nuts if that would be the difference between God letting me go pro or just staying average. Do you have any advice on this last paragraph?
Sazz Asked: Diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder in High School (Junior year), help w/letting counselors know..?
I'm currently a junior in high school and have just been diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder (after a suicide attempt). You could call me a bit of a perfectionist. Thing is, it's already March, more than half way through my most important year of high school. The problems associated with my anxiety disorder have been present and hindering since the beginning of the school year. Handing in assignments late, constantly belittling myself, a distracting obsession with the idea of committing suicide, test anxiety, etc. I know I am more than capable. I am intelligent, and give in quality work. It's just that the anxiety's been getting worse and worse as the days pass. The idea of homework and even going to school are becoming scary in themselves, so much so that I've actually missed three weeks.
I don't know what to do, and whether or not to tell my counselor. I want to know how much of a negative impact will this have on my chances of getting into a prestigious college. Should I tell my counselor about these problems? Would my high school be able to accommodate me and my issues (extend due dates, a little extra time for tests, etc)? Would it portray me as incapable/handicapped?
Also, because of my problems, I have been unable to go out and do community service/take on leadership positions. I feel cornered and hopeless. I am supposed to be receiving my medicine, too. Though, the meds will also give me side effects to deal with that may hinder my performance. I love school and know I am very capable. But it's just this irrational fear of not living up to my standards or the standards of my teacher/being incorrect about things that's holding me back. Any suggestions on how to handle these issues, and how to approach my counselor/teachers about the problems, and how to ask them whether they could make accommodations. Would my mother have to be the instigator? How can I get back on my feet after receiving such poor grades and accomplishments due to this illness? I was thinking summer courses, but..
What advice can any of you spare me?
Thank you all in advance! I'd appreciate any help I could get.
Women want a man who can smoothly lead her
and the interaction. That means that you need
to take the initiative, come up with the plans,
and expect her to follow you.
When women resist your leadership take it as
a test. you pass her test if you respond with
positivity, persistence, and light-heartedness.