should i stay or should i go now?

Asked: should i stay or should i go now?

the question is pretty much self explanatory, ive been with my current boyfriend of almost 4 yrs. we have a daughter together… we fight constantly, he plays video games LITERALLY all day, yes he has a job and all that jaz, but we havent had sex in over 2 yrs, i dont find myself even being turned on by him anymore after all the stuff he has said to me ( your fat, nobody wants you, your a dumb *****, you slutt, you whore… and so on ), i have to beg him to do stuff with our daughter, and im finding it very difficult to continue being treated like **** , i know there is a guy that likes me and wants to date me, but he is 4 years younger than i and i have never dated a younger guy… he is although everything that i love in a guy, a hunter, an out door kinda guy, he gives me the attention i want/need, hes really sweet.. and acts more mature. i dont know what to do anymore. im fed up with how things are going right now… what would you do? give up and move on, and try something new? or beg and plead for a couple more years to see if things change?? just give me your advice please! thank you

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if you go there will be trouble. If you stay it will be double
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He's a jerk, just leave him.
You don't need this.
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my god people, can you learn to make decisions without rambling on the internet?

as if you hadn't already decided whether or not to break up with this guy who obviously hates your guts? smh.

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GO!
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I love that song!
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go now!!! good luck to you and your daughter Godbless
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Another guy doesn't matter. This man emotionally abuses you and treats your daughter badly. You would be better off on your own.
Also; you may want to consider getting married before having another child. I know it sounds old fashioned, but it just works out better that way.
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It is good for you to go with the newer guy rather than dying everyday.
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I would pack my things and Childs things,and leave him, place a child support order right away, and as for the other guy, I would go on dates with him, but not make anything official until at least a couple of months. And don't introduce him to your child until you are sure of going out with him. As for the age difference, don't worry about it, age is but a number, what's important is the maturity and personality of a person. Follow your heart but always put your daughter before anything and anyone.
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No one can answer you better than you can as you are the person who knows everything about the situation.Indeed you have right to have a good life and to be respected. So think wise and make decision yourself… You might consider few things like the life of your daughter before making decision.
You won't have a total victory in any decision but you can maximize your benefit by comparing the good and bad effects.
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He sounds like my son. Just a kid with a kid. I am having marital issues with my husband of ten years and to me, it's worth working out because I think we've invested too much into eachother to let go. It seems like you're the only one who's done any investing. How cruel could a man be to the mother of his child by saying all those things. Do you want your daughter to hear him say those things to you? And think that that is how men talk to women. I know that I am one to talk, my husband has been cruel to me too, but never by calling me names–like a little school boy would. That is just childish and hurtful on a different level, its belittling. I say you deserve better! Don't beg. Let him play those damn video games. If you want to date, that's up to you, you're not married!! Go out and have some fun. After having a man put you down like that, I would be in the mood for some positivity too. Restore yourself with that, but don't commit. Just let it give you the confidence to get back out there into the world. I feel for you dear. Sometimes I wish my situation was that easy, it wouldn't be so hard to leave with only one baby. Don't stay long enough to have more, I promise–mark my words–you will regret it. Leave now while you only have one, your sanity, and a promising love interest. Good luck to you and I wish you the absolute best !
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It sounds like you both were quite young when you had the child so it seems like the guy still hasn't gotten out of his teenage ways. It would be in your best interest to leave but you need to have somewhere else to go.

You could try to rekindle the relationship by losing a few pounds, go to the gym, workout and get a figure that is more appealing to him however, I think his attitude is way too immature for it to appreciate any effort you do.

The other guy is more interested in you as a person and not a plaything, As long as he is aware that you do have a daughter and that you are interested in him as a person and not as an escape from a situation then it could work out for the best.

If you are going to "use" the other guy as a way to get from the father of your daughter then it would be better for you to go it alone and do the right thing for all parties including yourself. You need to find the real you, find independence on your own and settle things down before dating elsewhere.

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I also vote you for justleavinghim.
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Lets take a step back and look at things how they are and not how they were.i'm sorry I fail to see how he gives you any positive attention now, I know this is hard to hear because you put so much time and effort into your relationship and by all means we are a bunch of strangers but I have some experience in relationships and the things he says to you that is verbal abuse.I have been in many abusive relationships. And it took a lot of courage in me to leave them. It starts with verbal abuse and sometimes can really escalate. The things he says to you are not alright and he is mentally keeping you down by telling you and making you feel like no one else would accept you. I don't care if you were 400lbs someone out there would still love you. Having children changes your body and it's not like t.v no one just snaps back to the skinny jeans. It takes a real man to love his girlfriend and/or wife through all her changes. Every couple fights but there is a such thing as to much and you have a daughter it is not healthy for her to see all this stuff going on. You have to beg him to do anything with her it's now time you take a stance you should never have to beg no man who should be a father to raise his child. It's time you pack up and go your daughters mental health means more. She is being affected by this whether you see it now or not. My parents were always fighting and abusive on many levels and because that is what I saw I feel into the same thing your daughter will learn these things and that this type of love is accepted. Do you want that for your daughter? To be with a man who will never treat her how she should? Life is very short and wasting your time on wasteful people is just shorting how much happiness you get in this life. If you were (heaven forbid ) die tomorrow would you say he was worth it? Or would you look at what the life you had and say "Man I wish I could have given myself more, given my daughter more" You must always think of these things. You need to contact a stop domestic violence and make a report on him. So you have it on file with you so if he does try to take you to court or anything for your daughter you can demand supervised visitation with you at your home because he is an abusive neglectful "Father". These are all important steps to take for yourself and your daughter. You should never accept neglectful behavior to your self and most certainly NOT to your child. You need to stand up for yourself and your little girl no man is worth your happiness. There are billions in the world and there is someone to love you. All you have to do is remember you're good enough and he is the one who isn't worth the time. There is nothing left here just insults and no intimacy. Pack up and go sister. Move it or lose it, because today is all you have, there is no promise of tomorrow. Since there is another guy I say take it, just because he is younger doesn't mean anything. Some younger guys turn out to be great age is just a number and love doesn't care about numbers.

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