Neil Strauss Full Video Course Part 5
The Annihilation Method Part 5
Opening Conversations With Women Congruently
Before you approach a beautiful girl or a group of girls you should already know what you may possibly want their opinion on. Think of some topics women find interesting now and write them down NOW. This is something you should be thinking about at this very moment not AFTER you see the girl you want. Be prepared for success.
You’re also going to ask every group how they all know each other. This is not some memorized line. This is something that you actually want and NEED to know. You have to know who’s the brother, work-mate, and boyfriend. Therefore, the question should come from a place of genuine curiosity, which will be felt by the all girls in the group. And that’s good.
After you ask how they know each other you can take anything interesting they say and talk about that for a minute.. see where it leads(This is conversations skills practice). Then just as you’re about to leave notice something. It could be that two of the girls are “girl-coding” each other with their eyes.. meaning they might be best friends.. you could give them the “best friends test”. It could be any intelligent observation; and you can use it to keep the conversation going.
Key: If the girls are sitting don’t just stand there and hover over them the whole time. Why? Because a high-status person doesn’t make themselves uncomfortable just to talk to someone. Start your new thread, grab a seat WHILE you give another time-constraint, and continue. Always be more relaxed than the girls you’re gaming.
If girls are against the bar and you’re standing there facing the bar trying to chat, THEY are in the “king’s position” + it looks like you’re gaming them to everyone else. Say, “I wanna show you something cool. Here, come over here.” and move her. Just trade places and keep talking. Or, just spin her. Now you made her laugh, taken a better position, which is better for HER psychology, and gained social proof since it looks like THEY are the ones gaming YOU. Girls love this.
If you’re going to tell a story that relates to your opinion opener make sure you throw in another time constraint to reinforce the fact that you’re about to leave (you can change your mind if things go well). You don’t want people distracted wondering how long you’re going to stay, you want them to listen to you.
Try to subtly slide in some demonstrations of high-value in your story. Do not talk about anything negative in respect to you or anyone else or display lower value in any way. And remember not to drag one topic out too long. Don’t beat it to death, ya know. Cut the conversation thread and keep it moving and interesting.
Have your stories down before you use them in the field. Practice telling them to your friends or in the mirror. Be enthusiastic and really get into the story as you tell it.
Often, girls will try to get guys to jump through “hoops” i.e. Buy me a drink, tell us another story, etc. This is a test so don’t fail by complying. Just tell them you’re not jumping through their hoops. You grew up around women so you’re immune to all that. Or say “Buy me a drink first, and I’ll think about it.” Or, “No, it’s your turn to tell me a story. Go.”
Don’t approach a group of girls with your friend by your side. It looks like you’re not confident enough to approach on your own and need someone to hold your hand. Just go in alone and let your wingman join a few minutes later. Give him an accomplishment intro when he arrives. This shows that you hang out with cool people and helps him out too.
One obvious thing that’s easy to forget is SMILE. Relax, don’t worry about the outcome, and have fun. All these things together will send great signals regardless of what you’re actually saying.
Calibration
The reactions of the girls in the group will often tell you what you’re doing right or wrong. If they ask if it’s a pickup line then you may be a little robotic and not spontaneous enough. So be flexible. You don’t have to say things exactly as you learn them.
If they ask if you’re taking a survey then you didn’t root your opener. Tell them why you’re asking before you even ask.
If they look bored and start making excuses to leave then you came in with a lower energy level. People want their fun increased with slightly higher energy not brought down.
To delve even deeper into the art of meeting, attracting, and dating beautiful women go to: www.30DaysToDatingMaster.com
David Gideon
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September 30th, 2009 at 8:47 am
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