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Compliments Gone Wrong
Charlie mentions mentions giving girls compliments and how it never really works. That’s right! When you’re constantly pulling a girl in with compliments it does three things:
1. If she gets lots of compliments already it puts you in the group with every other guy, making you “the next guy”. In other words, boring and unoriginal.
2. It makes her suspicious of your intentions. Why are you complimenting her when you don’t even know her. There’s lots of pretty girls.. Do you walk up complimenting all of them until one “takes the bait”?
3. It gives her something to resist against. Constantly pulling on a girl by showering her with compliments creates discomfort and makes her want to pull back.
Here’s what you should do instead:
When you approach a girl and give her a compliment, immediately start qualifying her to find out what she has going on besides that. This balances the compliment with a challenge and takes away her urge to pull back. It also shows that you have high standards since she needs to have more than a pretty face or nice outfit to win your respect and admiration.
Ask her what good qualities she has besides being physically attractive. When she says something you like compliment her on that. If she says something you don’t like tease her about not being your type or tell her she lost a point. Have fun with this!
Find things you like and can compliment her on AND challenge/tease her about the things she doesn’t have/can’t do. These don’t have to be serious things.. You could tell her she’s not your type and it would never work out because she can’t breakdance or doesn’t have 22 inch rims on her ride! The effect is the same. Again.. Have fun with this. The whole point is to amuse yourself and be a source of fun.
Remember: Taking two steps forward and one step back in your interactions makes things more comfortable for the woman and increases sexual tension. It’s a great way to add a little mystery and fun to the interaction.
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David Gideon
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Great post. I like to keep the push/pull dynamic going on as long as I can, like you said.
So if I give her a compliment, I’ll usually follow up with a tease.