Asked: First date with new boyfriend? advice?
I've known my boyfriend for about 5 months now and we've been quite close.. And the other day he asked me to be his girlfriend (via text, I know it's not the best but these were special circumstances..) but I can't see him over half term because he's in France. We text everyday, he texts me in the morning and then we always text for ages at night. But on Sunday I'm meeting him for the first time as my boyfriend (and also the first time out of school) but I don't know how to greet him- do I greet him as a friend or do I hug him or what? I'm so confused.. He's my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. Also how do we act when we go back to school? He's quite shy, and denied liking me for ages because his mates teased him. Any ideas? How can I make it not awkward etc!?
We're both 14/15 by the way..
Asked: RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP ASAP!?
Okay this is gonna be long and I've been a mess the past two days and I just need an outsiders advice other then my family and friends.
I started dating my boyfriend when we were 17 ( I'm now 20) in the beginning of our relationship he was very strange.. he always wanted to hang with friends instead of seeing me and what not . He liked drinking and partying too much but i told him that i couldn't be with someone like that, so he decided to take a break with it and for the past 2 and a half years of our relationship.. we basically spent every waking day with each other. Just three days ago we had a great valentines day.. he spent over 200 dollars on me and we had very intimate sex which we haven't done in awhile.. he literally told me he wanted to marry me and everything was FINE.
The next night I was at his house and i went upstairs to confront him because lately he's been ignoring me a lot ( playing video games, constantly watching tv..etc) * also i feel like he's changed.. he constantly is smoking weed ALL the time, he won't wake up and get out of bed i have to basically force him to its almost like he has no motivation at all .. he also stopped going to college he's constantly missing school* SO anyway, i went to confront him about the ignoring thing and i layed down on his bed because i take pain meds from my surgery and i got tired.. he was being really annoying laying all over me and i kept telling him to stop because i was actually tired and he wasn't just trying to lay with me he was like laying on my hair and like really bothering me ( not in a cute way) so he got off the bed and i was pretending like i was packing my stuff to go and i didn't say a word to him. All of a sudden he comes up and he's legit in my face like his face was so close to my face it was touching mine and he was screaming DELTE ALL OF OUR TEXTS DELETE THE TEXTS.. nothing was making sense to me .. why would he want me to randomly delete texts? So finally it got to far and i wouldn't delete them so he pushed me ( i just had knee surgery a month ago and i can't bend my leg at all i have a brace on and i had my fourth neck surgery a couple of months before that.. pushing someone is very serious ESPECIALLY after they had that many surgeries) so i slapped him and i said thats it I'm going home. He told me if I left i would make the biggest mistake of my life.. idk why he would say that we both needed space clearly and he JUST pushed me I didn't want to be around him. So my mom got there and he was like can I have one last hug… REALLY? thats just weird…
When I got home I had to make contact with him i had to call i had to text and while on the phone i asked why he didn't drive over immediately to try and fix things.. if you love someone that much you would do whatever it takes knowing you pushed them and basically gave them no choice but to leave. So he told me that he had no gas in the car.. * oh okay i guess now I'm not even worth five bucks of gas? mind u he's a very cheap person as it is, but still*
So the next day we talked again and he said there was no chance of us getting back together.. ( we already changed our fb status to single and i made a Facebook status saying i was done with him which 70+ people liked.. but that doesn't mean we couldn't date again… i was willing to give him another chance.) he then literally told me he stopped loving me a month ago..
This is what I need help with.. how did he stop loving me a month ago.. yet buy me expensive **** even though he's cheap and kept having me around having VERY intimate sex and telling me he wanted to marry me? Do you think he's only saying this because he was mad about the Facebook status because he isn't a public person like that? Because why would he of bothered to take me out and spend money on me if he didn't love me. It honestly makes no sense and I'm really confused. When he came over to talk he said he wanted to be friends but i can't be friends with someone like that… then when he left he stood on my front porch for a half hour staring at my door. He told me though that the only reason why he was breaking up with me was because he didn't want to hurt me since I'm always trying to get him to be a better person ( knocking the bad drinking habits** he doesn't just have a couple of beers he has to have like 14 until he passes out.. he even went to a bar with me and drank unattended drinks)**
I just need advice.. do you think he's gonna come crawling back? We were so close we literally spent everyday with each other and slept over each others houses.
Im just a mess from this especially since i can't really get out of bed from the constant surgeries.
I just want an opinion from an outside view. Do you really think he meant he didn't love me? Ive done everything for him. This is seriously breaking my heart.
Asked: pregnant during college?
I am 19 years old, I will be 20 in september. I got my GED in May of 2012 and started at a community college that fall of 2012. I am in my 2nd semester of school, I am getting my Associate in Arts degree then transferring to a university for my bachelors in Elementary Education (being a teacher is my dream career). I will not be dorming when i go to the university. I will be commuting because of cost and the fact it is close to home(i live with parents.) I have a part time job at dairy queen (assistant manager, been there for 3 years but only making $9 per hour.)
Anyway, when I was 15 and in high school I got pregnant and ended up having an abortion(pretty much had no choice, but not for health reasons). Then when I was 18 (righttt before I got my passing ged test results) I fell pregnant again and was going to keep it. I was actually happy. But I ended up miscarrying early in the pregnancy…This REALLY hit me hard. See, I am RH negative which if you know what that is, it does cause some complications with pregnancy, not always, but it can effect it. however the doctor at hospital said the miscarriage was probably just by chance, like most miscarriages.
I took my mind off of it by starting college. Which even though it is community college, I love it. I even got accepted into their honors institute.
But all of this is REALLY making me want to get pregnant again…I want a baby so much, having to 2 dead children really kills me, and I want nothing more than to raise a baby…but then I see the flip side…I could wait till I graduate with my bachelors as a teacher, land a teaching job, buy a house, get married and have a family I suppose…I do guess that would be more logical, but so many of my friends my age are having kids and It makes me miss mine more, and makes me wish I could have one now. I also want to have one in a way to make sure I CAN carry a baby to term without issues…Im worried Ill misscary again or something bad will happen, so I'm curious if I CAN do it…
Please, I just need advice..I know this all sounds crazy..but I just want a child so bad and I am still hurting from my miscarriage. It happened in May of 2012 I believe it was…My due date would have been this valentines day that just passed..
Plus, when I get out of college and finally get settled in and buy I house I'll probably be 26-28 years old….. I don't know if I can even wait that long to have a baby…seems like forever..
My boyfriend and I have been together since 2008. He is a lot older though.
Asked: How can I express attraction?
This is an awkward question for me to ask, but I'm no longer a teenager and I've never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. The only girl I ever asked out (and for whom I ever really felt what might have been love for) said no, though admittedly I did not know her that well. I have been worried for a while now that I will die alone (at my present success rate, I'll die without even having kissed). I'm not asexual.
I want to change this, but I just simply don't have a clue. I used to have a passive attitude and hope that I would just happily fall into a relationship, but now I realise that doesn't work. Frankly, I don't even know if I want a relationship; maybe I just want to feel like someone cares for me and is attracted to me, or I just want to confirm myself that having a relationship is still possible.
I was depressed, shy and focussed on other things at that age when people become interested in the other gender, so I didn't go out much and completely missed out on the social training that comes with that stage of life. I'm not so shy anymore, and don't have any problems talking with women I know.
So, basically, is there a way to learn from the beginning? Are there online guides that might be useful? How would I express attraction to a friend, and how would I express attraction to a stranger in a library or nightclub?
Asked: Did I hurt his feelings?? he ignoring me he won’t reply to my messages?
Iam been seeing this guy and he said that me and him are taking it slowly anyway yesterday he got jealous because some guy voicenote me on bbm saying iam thinking about u bby and the guy iam seeing said let me send him a voicenote I will tell him to stop flirting with my girl then we went to my mates house and he wernt cuddling me or kissing me (even though he did this at mine 2weeks ago infront of my mum) but he poked his tongue out at me few times while playing his xbox and he played with my hair too
I sent a broadcast on bbm bout (it was a banter broadcast) valentines day then he copied mine and sent it out I message him saying copycat lol x he said lol x then I said jokes lol x then 15mins later He sent a broadcast (on bbm) today saying I love my valentine with pictures of roses and hearts.
I said good luck he read this but didn't reply
So messaged him again saying I think we should just be mates now he replied back and said y then he messaged again saying that was for you you num nut x. I said yh right he read this but didn't reply back and that was our last chat
But my mate message him saying who your valentines the he said sharon and she said really he said yes but she pi**es me off the way she goes she said what u mean? He said she don't trust me iam thinking off walking away she said sharon f*cking likes u he read this but didn't reply so I sent him this I know I haven't sed it but I do love u n iam scared to show my feelings but iam more scared off getting hurt again n iam insecure n iam sorry if I upset n hurt u xx he read it but didn't reply back (at the time when I sent this message I did have on my bbm status that I was getting drunk) he's still got me on bbm though
Why won't he reply back??