Asked: Is it normal to change this much?
When I was little, I was a handful. I was always getting into trouble, and I had behavior problems. It got to the point where I had to go to a mental hospital when I was in second grade. But they gave me some meds that did a chemical re-balance to help me control my impulses. I was also kind of promiscuous for my age. The first time I french kissed a guy, I was in third grade, and it was all my idea.
I really started to calm down in middle school. I got in a lot less trouble, but I was still talkative and social. But then when I got in high school, it's like I did a 180. I turned shy, and almost anti-social at one point. I didn't have a bf almost all throughout high school, I completely stayed out of trouble (no drinking or doing drugs), and I didn't have very many friends (just one bff). I was also very active in church, and I was planning on waiting until marriage to have sex. In fact, I was dead set on waiting, and not because anyone else was telling me to.
Now I'm a senior. Then beginning of my senior year was normal, but things have changed again. I don't go to church anymore (well, that was for reasons outside of my control). I kind of have a group of friends I hang out with. I feel more confident. And then in January, I started dating one of my co-workers. That's when things really started to change again. It was like that promiscuity I'd had when I was little had been building up over the years, or something. Basically, within a month of dating my bf, we'd done almost everything except actual sex, and the only reason I hadn't lost my virginity was because he wanted to wait. But I finally lost it earlier this week. I don't regret it at all. Though, it was weird when my bff (who lost her virginity, and had had plenty of bfs before me) asked me for sex advice the other day. Just last year, she would apologize for even talking about sex near me.
I don't really know what I'm asking. I guess: Is this normal? Sometimes, I don't even know who I am.
Asked: I really need advice! What should I do? I love a girl who’s dating a guy?
I need advice! I want to know if you when through the same as I am right now.
By the way. I'm a 17yr old girl. She's 18.
I'm going to try and keep this short as possible. Me and a girl that I met through my best friend had a 'thing' going on. It started last year of march. It would stop for a few months and happen again. We made out a lot of times, we did all that couple things, you know? Like hold hands, cuddle, flirt, have deep conversations, spend time with each other. Stuff like that. We really didn't consider our selfs in a relationship because we were more friends than friends with benefits. In July we stopped talking to each other because we just didn't get along anymore. But then on December everything went back to normal as if nothing happen. During the time we didn't talk she was dating a boy.( claimed she was straight -_-) it didn't really bother me cause I had forgotten about her. It had been a while since we talk so I guess I didn't even care. January is when we went back to it. We kissed for the first time since June on January. I kissed her first but she kissed back and texted me that day she really wanted to kiss me. She told me 1 week ago. That she feels differently when girls kiss her(I'm the only girl she kissed) she told me that she loves me, that she hates it when I'm talking about other people. And after all this time she finally admitted to me last week that she's Bi. But she's afraid to like girls cause it's not normal. And that she's afraid what her mom would think of her. She kissed me that day(she has a bf) and told me she's been wanted to do that again. Me and her have this crazy conncetion. It's like we always go back to it. We can't help it. Last night everything changed. I asked her what are we considered. So I realized at the moment that what I was doing was stupid. She had told me before that she's in a serious relationship and that she really loved her boyfriend. But I didn't take her serious because why would she do all the things she did with me? Why would she tell me all those things? I thought she would leave him for me. But at the movement I knew she wouldn't. And I asked her too. And she said she loves him. Right now I'm so heartbroken than ever before. This girl has hurt me so many times. But this is the deepest of all. I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I wait and she of she would come back? You think she would come back? Or should I just move on.
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Asked: How should I approach girls differently?
Before you think I'm some manwhore/pickup artist DONT. I'm a really nice and genuine guy. Honestly, I would say I'm one of the nicest guys out there and I'm not even trying to pat myself on the back at all, that's just who I am. (I get it from my mom). Now that this is understood please read/give advice. thanks!
Hey, I'll start off by saying that I'm a fairly attractive 19 year old male. I'm 5'9 about 130 lbs — kind of skinny; I'm toned but not super muscular or anything. It's not so much that I need help talking to girls but what seems to happen is literally every girl I talk to seems to move into the "long term" zone if that makes sense. It's like they want me as a boyfriend but no girls want to just fool around. I'm not a player at all, in fact I'm one of those "cute nice guys" (not to sound cocky or anything, I'm just trying to tell it how it is) but the problem is that no girls ever want a fling. I've never really been in a "real" relationship, and I've only slept with one girl. I've had hookups here and there but that was in high school.
My question is how can I talk to girls so that they want to get with me sooner, like I said I'm not a player it's just that it gets really annoying when every girl seems to want to take things slow and move toward the "relationship zone". I gotta have some fun before I figure out what girls I'm into/not into!
Asked: My crush likes me back…now what?
My crush's best friend told me my crush likes me. We only have one class together (where we sit next to each other) and we talk at the end of the day as we walk out together.Other than that, I don't get to see him. Because of these things, I am interested in getting to know him better. I only know a few things about him so advice on how to best exchange numbers, and advice on talking with him would be great.If this helps, we are both 14 and in eighth grade. I'm not ready to ask him to go on dates/activities outside of school, other than our school's annual trip to 6 flags at the end of the school year. He also has a big sense of humor, and constantly jokes around. We have a few inside jokes and he teases me good-naturedly all the time.
Asked: Is she dating someone?
Hey guys need some help. There is this girl in my school (have been breaking my no girls from school rule) and I asked her to hangout tomorrow. She said that we could after her b-ball practice and she started talking about that she was gonna look bad. I take this as a sign that she wants to look good around me but but would like a few more opinions. I can't tell if she's flirting because I'm used to telling from body langity. Need some help, your fellow pickup artist (kidding) Josh.